What's horrible
about FS is when she calls out OQ everyone praises her, even if what
she's saying is so hurtful and horrible. There's way to tell OQ he's
doing the wrong thing without hurting him, but she WANTS to hurt him. I
remember when Barry told him that 'he doesn't use his personal tragedies
as an excuse to torture people'. THAT'S how to call out OQ's behaviour.
Not pot shots at his PTSD or his son. It addresses his emotions are
valid but it's not an excuse.
Bless you, anon, bless you.
I mean, Felicity taking pot shots at Oliver in front of the whole team and even behind his back just shows she’s not interested in helping him see the error of his ways and correct them. She just likes the power trip from putting him down and getting away with it.
Barry and Oliver’s arguments always happen one-on-one, away from the others because they are discussions between two equal partners who, despite not always agreeing on everything, hold a tremendous amount of respect for the other. The only “pot shots” they take at each other (if you can call them that) are little in-jokes, like Barry bringing up Oliver shooting him in the back or Oliver turning the “it’s your city” line around on Barry. It’s a healthy friendship.
Felicity and Oliver never even had that. Look no further than “Anyone with boobs can get a frat boy to do anything” “I was a frat boy” “I rest my case” back in season two. Before Oliver even considered Felicity as a romantic partner she was already belittling his intelligence and actions.
And I honestly don’t expect anyone from Team Arrow to speak up about it because she’s done a tremendous job undermining Oliver’s authority and position in the eyes of the team, and he does nothing to indicate he’s not ok with that treatment because he believes he deserves it. She’s convinced him he’s always in the wrong in their relationship (and don’t think she doesn’t believe that herself, Miss “Because you’re a man” Smoak), his support system has been systematically cut off at the knees (all his former friends and family dead - and relegated to the background when alive - except for Thea, who has never comfortably fit into the Ol*city relationship and is often discarded in favor of it), and he’s equated his sense of self worth to the success of his relationship (”I came back because of Felicity” “Why can’t I save both the city and my relationship” etc).
It’s emotional abuse. Plain and simple. I don’t know how else to spell that out. Some people refuse to see that and they probably never will. Some people see Ol*city as a relationship to aspire to. But it is not healthy, it is not loving, and it is abuse. And the sad thing is I don’t see this version of Oliver Queen ever being able, or allowed, to recover from that.
I mean, Felicity taking pot shots at Oliver in front of the whole team and even behind his back just shows she’s not interested in helping him see the error of his ways and correct them. She just likes the power trip from putting him down and getting away with it.
Barry and Oliver’s arguments always happen one-on-one, away from the others because they are discussions between two equal partners who, despite not always agreeing on everything, hold a tremendous amount of respect for the other. The only “pot shots” they take at each other (if you can call them that) are little in-jokes, like Barry bringing up Oliver shooting him in the back or Oliver turning the “it’s your city” line around on Barry. It’s a healthy friendship.
Felicity and Oliver never even had that. Look no further than “Anyone with boobs can get a frat boy to do anything” “I was a frat boy” “I rest my case” back in season two. Before Oliver even considered Felicity as a romantic partner she was already belittling his intelligence and actions.
And I honestly don’t expect anyone from Team Arrow to speak up about it because she’s done a tremendous job undermining Oliver’s authority and position in the eyes of the team, and he does nothing to indicate he’s not ok with that treatment because he believes he deserves it. She’s convinced him he’s always in the wrong in their relationship (and don’t think she doesn’t believe that herself, Miss “Because you’re a man” Smoak), his support system has been systematically cut off at the knees (all his former friends and family dead - and relegated to the background when alive - except for Thea, who has never comfortably fit into the Ol*city relationship and is often discarded in favor of it), and he’s equated his sense of self worth to the success of his relationship (”I came back because of Felicity” “Why can’t I save both the city and my relationship” etc).
It’s emotional abuse. Plain and simple. I don’t know how else to spell that out. Some people refuse to see that and they probably never will. Some people see Ol*city as a relationship to aspire to. But it is not healthy, it is not loving, and it is abuse. And the sad thing is I don’t see this version of Oliver Queen ever being able, or allowed, to recover from that.
Enjoy your love story.
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